Deciding that you’d like to date a couple is a huge step for many bi women And it’s just the beginning.
Once you’ve decided that you want to date a couple, there are so many things to navigate. And because our culture still doesn’t properly support polyamorous relationships, it can be difficult to even know where to start.
Whether you’re looking to explore, or you’re ready to settle down with the right couple for you, we’ve got you covered with these tips to get you started on the right path.
Know what you want
Before anything else, it’s important to decide what you’re looking for.
Are you looking for a long-term relationship? Maybe you want to explore for a bit? It could even be that you’re just looking for a bit of fun.
Whatever it is that you’re looking for, the very first step is to become clear on it.
You don’t have to tell anyone at this point. Just get clear so that you know, as best you can.
It’s also okay to decide that you don’t know yet.
Know what you want right now
Once you’ve worked out what you want, figure out what you want right now. These are not necessarily the same thing.
You might want a long-term relationship, but first you’d like to test the waters.
Maybe you’re bi-curious, and you’d like to find out.
It could even be that you just want to experiment for a bit.
Explore in safe online environments
So you’ve decided to go for it and go to set up an online dating profile. But where exactly do you start?
Sites like Bicupid.com are a great place to start because we specialize in connecting like-minded people with others. Follow the easy sign-up process and fill in your details.
Look through the existing profiles that match what you think you’re looking for. Also look through profiles that are a partial match.
As you’re doing that, make a list of things you absolutely don’t want. Make another list of things you must have, and yet another of things that you might like to try, or are indifferent to.
If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, remember that these lists should include things like interests and hobbies along with everything else.
The important thing at this step is discovering enough of how other people talk about what you want that you can message the right couples for you.
Once you’ve got that information, edit your profile in such a way that it will appeal to the female half of couples. Clearly state what you’re looking for using the information from your lists.
Don’t worry about mentioning any deal-breakers in your profile. If you do include deal-breakers, the people who are looking for those things will find your profile and message you asking for them. This is probably the opposite of what you want.
Once your profile is edited and you’re happy with it, you can start messaging couples whose profiles you like. You can also hop into the online chat services at bicupid.com and talk to anyone who is about.
Tips for talking with couples
When you’re talking with couples, it’s important to make sure that both partners are into it. Sometimes just one partner will push the other to do something they don’t want to. This is usually very easy to discover by talking to them both as a couple and individually.
Once you’ve found a couple that you like, insist on a video call before any kind of meeting. The truth is that if a couple is willing to meet you in person, then they will definitely be willing to hop onto a video call with you.
Think about it for a moment: They’re risking far more by meeting in person, so if they won’t video call you, they probably have no intention of meeting in person.
Insist on talking to both of them at the same time on the video call.
Meeting a couple
So you’ve met a couple you like, you’ve talked with them, and discovered that you get on well. It’s time to meet!
When you meet them for the first time, choose somewhere public. Remember: There’s two of them and one of you.
Take all the standard precautions that you would when meeting anyone from online. Tell a friend. Arrange a time to make a safety call. I’m sure you know the drill.
And you can start right now
I’m sure you’re excited to get started as soon as possible.
So if you haven’t already done so, head on over to our signup page on bicupid.com and get started right away! You can either sign in with Facebook, or if you prefer a little more privacy, you can create an account with your email.
Take action on the steps above, and before you know it you could be dating the couple of your dreams!
