Passion and intimacy are the cornerstones of every relationship. Their maintenance decides whether a relationship will last for days or decades. Most couples, unfortunately, are faced with the terrible settling down of this fiery passion at some stage in their relationships. This makes them insecure and confused about the longevity of their love. They start to think that maybe true love doesn’t exist; that maybe all love, no matter how intense, is destined to extinguish.
The good news is that passion can be reignited. It can be traced back to the exact point where it started to flame down.
Sometimes, we get so used to love that it becomes the air around us – taken for granted. We get so comfortable with it that we no longer think that it’s ever going to float away. And in our complacency, we stop giving our partners the time and affection that they deserve, setting a series of events in the process that gradually break down a once unbreakable bond.
So, can this insidious and love-shattering process be reversed? Yes, many couples have risen over the slumps in their relationships and emerged even stronger.
How have they done this? We have some pointers that can help you.
1. Accept that Unconditional Love is a Myth
Most people spread lies and myths like “all is fair in love and war” and all sorts of bullshit. The truth is that love should not ever turn into a battlefield.
Most couples have this misconception that if their partner loves them, they will accept their unkindness and injustice. They think that it is somehow their responsibility to do so.
Nothing kills relationships faster than this kind of thinking.
When two people are in love, they are supposed to grow together into better people, not get used to their ugly sides and endure each other’s tortures through thick and thin.
Despite how love is sensationalized, it is not unconditional. It’s dependent, HEAVILY, on the conditions of kindness and care. Otherwise, it becomes a killer of intimacy, a frustrating beast.
So, if you want to reignite your passion, the first thing you have to do is rip this kind of thinking out of your mind as if it’s an evil implanted chip.
2. Start doing the Little Things
Grand gestures are good and all, but it is always the little things that shoot your relationship into outer space. Your lover saw you hand out a dollar to a homeless person on the street or help a kid do his homework, and these things coaxed them into loving you.
So, when you start doing these things again, you not only reignite your passions but also rediscover yourself. You not only become the person your lover deserves but also the person that makes you happy.
3. Start Working on Yourself
Yes, sometimes people forget that they have to tap into their potential. When they have everything in their life, financially and emotionally, they become lazy and careless. They stop working on their selves. They start taking things for granted.
And this, in the long run, makes them emotionally obese, slumped over the sofas of their comfortable lives like a mound.
They think that there is nothing more to life or love. This somehow existentialises their relationship; it recedes their drive for exploration that was once a mainstay of their love.
So, in the end, relationships and life are a game of mindsets.
With these couple dating tips, you can eradicate these negative notions of life and love from your mind. You can change the course of your entire life, steer a wrecked ship to shore.
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